Happy 2018! We’re celebrating in New Orleans, cheering on our Clemson Tigers in the Sugar Bowl, and stuffing ourselves silly with po’boys.
So, 2017 guys…
I feel like it was the worst/best year of my life. I rang in 2017 in Paris on a bridge overlooking the Seine with a belly full of truffle cheese and a bottle of champagne in hand, kissing my husband, surrounded by woohoo’ing strangers. Pretty magical, right?
I had so many incredible experiences in 2018. I ate the five best ramen noodle soups of my life in Japan. I drank wine chilled with freshly chipped iceberg ice sitting shotgun in the camper van we spent a week driving around Iceland in. I ran along the pacific coast in San Francisco and hiked among the redwoods in Sonoma. I went back to the conference in Vermont that essentially launched my business 3 years ago. I visited friends and family in Chicago, Boston, Portland, New Orleans, Asheville, and New York City. Phew.
It was also a huge year for my business, so much so that I felt comfortable launching career coaching services for aspiring private practice RDs. When I take a step back and look at my career, personal life, marriage, and things are just really, really good.
At the same time, I spent much of 2017 feeling like the world was crumbling apart. There’s been this nagging, deep sense of anxiety bubbling under the surface. I’ve spent a lot of 2017 feeling pretty sad.
That said, seeing the worst of humanity opened my eyes and forced me to learn so much about the world outside of my privileged bubble. I did a lot of listening and researching and reading and thinking, and because of that, I feel like I’m living a life more in line with my core values than I ever have. For the first time, like, ever, I feel 100% confident in my voice. Okay, maybe 95%.
In 2018, I don’t want to try and be a new me. Who I am today is enough.
I’m not setting any goals or resolutions this year. I know myself well enough to know that I’m not the goal setting type. My inner rebel is just a little too strong for that. I don’t want to try and control life in 2018. I just want to give myself space to be.
To do that, I know I need to reprioritize. For too long, career achievement, “shoulds” and mindless numbing on social media have sucked up much too much of my valuable time. Here’s my intentions on how I want to live, and what values I want to prioritize in 2018.
1. Self care over work. It’s been hard work building this business over the past few years. I’ve sacrificed a lot. That’s okay, because there’s a lot of hustle that goes into owning a small business, and I wouldn’t have it any other way. I love what I do, and am so proud of the work I’ve done in my private practice and with this blog, inspiring and helping people build a healthier relationship with food and their body. But I keep hustling like my business is brand new, forgetting that I’ve already made it. Like, it’s okay – I can slow down! There’s no need to work late nights and weekends. I can go to yoga class tonight, and let those emails sit in my inbox until tomorrow. I can say no to the project that takes my Saturday to complete. Guys, I don’t have to keep setting my alarm for 6 am!
2. Set better boundaries in my business. Being a helping person in a helping profession, I’ll admit, I’m not always the best with sticking to boundaries. I’ve gotten SO much better at this over the years, but I still see room for improvement. I want to be a better role model for my clients who struggle with setting boundaries for themselves.
3. Be a better friend. I remember when I was an awkward kid at a new school, and what I wanted more than anything in the world was a solid group of friends. Well, I have that now, but sometimes I take them for granted. In 2018, I want to pick up the phone and the keys to my car more often and spend more time nourishing the friendships in my life.
4. Be more intentional with my time. When I used to really struggle with anxiety, I learned distraction as a coping mechanism. Like many coping mechanisms we use for survival (hello emotional eating), it’s outlasted it’s usefulness. In 2018, I want to concentrate more on doing deep work and being more intentional with how I use my work and play hours.
5. Give more. Life has been more than generous to me, more so than anything I’ve worked for or “earned.” I don’t want to be one of those people who works hard just to collect material things. I want enough for security and to enjoy the experiences I want, and to give the rest.
I’m not going to try and make 2018 the “best year yet”, because that’s just not something I have control over. All I really want in 2018 is to live my life consistent with my core values. Here’s to doing 2018 the best we can.
What are your intentions for 2018?